48. Cheri Timko – Dating Your Spouse

Cheri Timko is a Couples Relationship Coach who helps women deepen their connection with their current partner so they can have the relationship they long for. She has been happily married for 20 years. She is a veteran psychotherapist and homeschool mom to three teenage daughters. Cheri is on Instagram and Facebook. You can also join her Facebook page Date Night Community. Visit her website: www.cheritimko.com Links FLOW Mastermind – A Business Mastermind for an Integrated Life The Fly Program – A Marriage That is Finally Free To Take Off 5 Surprising Ways to Improve Your Marriage Let’s Connect! Connected for Real is on Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn and Youtube! For more information about Connected for Real, visit the website! Subscribe to the PodcastSpotify | Google Podcasts | Apple Podcasts Welcome to the Connected for Real podcast. I'm Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, a marriage coach for women and business, and my mission is to bring God's presence into your life, into your marriage, and into your business. Let's get started. And we are live. Welcome everyone to the Connected for Real podcast. I am Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, and today with me is Cheri Timko, who you just heard in the podcast two podcasts ago. and today we're doing a follow up because when I posted this podcast, it was a year after we recorded and I thought, Hey, that would be really fun to hear a follow up. So introduce yourself first and then we'll start talking about our topic for today. Great. Great. Thank you so much for having me. I am a couple's relationship coach. I'm also a psychotherapist who specializes in couples, so I really get. My whole life is kind of immersed in how to help couples. I'm also mom to three daughters, two of who are now in college. So letting go of those daughters, that's really hard. I don't know. Those are probably the highlights. ? Yes. Oh my gosh. A year is such a long time and suddenly there's different things happening and all the different moves and the changes, so I totally get it. . Oh my goodness. Okay, so last time we spoke about how you helped the couple and I helped the wife. And today I wanna focus more on using dating as a way to fix your marriage. And I'm talking about dating your own spouse, obviously. You know, Obvious. But yeah, that you come up with all sorts of crazy things. So it's good to clarify. Don't Google it. dating while married. Yes. So date your spouse in order to fix your marriage. Let me hear more about that. Tell me how. How you came up with this, what you came up with. Obviously it's not something you made up. We all know it's a good thing to date your, you know, husband or your wife, whoever you're listening to who, whoever's listening to us. But what did you do to make it more practical, more realistic, more doable? So this idea really started two years ago when I opened my Facebook group. It's called Date Night Community, and it's to support married couples. And I put, I post three date night questions every week. And I've been doing that for I think a year and a half. Very strong. Every week you get your three questions and it just encourages couples to go out and then talk to each other about stuff other than home, family, and work, cuz those are the three topics that everybody talks about. So sometime last year I was like, oh, right. This always bothers me that people give up the. like they get married cuz they found this person who they have fun with, they connect with they love, and then they stop having any fun. So I was like, okay, I bet I can fix the relationship problems with structured questions. So I have a group going through my course right now. I'll run it again in a couple months. But. go on a date. They spend 30 minutes talking about these specific questions to walk them through problems and communication and how they wanna continue, and then they do something fun. So it's a lot. I'm just really enjoying it.