26. Young Mom & Marriage

In This Episode Matressence is the process of a woman becoming a mother. Aside from the biological changes, women also experience emotional, social, and economic changes. Bayla Abdurachmanov is a mama on a mission. She helps new moms and moms of young children feel like themselves again after matressence. Learn her MEE Method and see how matressence affects marriage and business. If your husband is with you, let him listen in on this episode too. Bayla shares tips on how your husband can support you better so your marriage can become better as you become a new and improved version of yourself. Highlights 00:58 Coach Bayla Abdurachmanov is an identity coach for moms and matressence educator, especially young moms and new moms.   01:29 Matressence is the process of a woman becoming a mother. A lot of times, we associate pregnancy with only physical changes. However, Coach Bayla explains that all areas of life are affected by motherhood, and this is backed up by science. Matressence lasts for a minimum of two years, and women change at each pregnancy. 04:06 There is what Coach Bayla likes to call an identity gap that new mothers experience, where a new mom questions why she feels like she isn’t herself. 06:48 It is important to remember that with every birth, we are shifting and moving forward to be better and not who we were before. We must embrace the changes that come with matressence. 07:08 In Rebbetzin Bat-Chen’s Marriage Breakthrough Retreat (Day 5) and Intimacy Master Class, she coaches women on how to focus on an ideal situation and become comfortable with change in order to succeed in one’s marriage and business. 09:50 The three step process on how women can deal with matressence is called MEE: Meet yourself where you’re at, Embrace the change, Embody the vision. 14:48 There is a similarity between the CALM Method that Rebbetzin Bat-Chen discusses in her Marriage Breakthrough Retreat with Coach Bayla’s MEE. 27:28 Dreams, children, and marriage should not be in competition with each other. 29:37 Time is your friend. When we focus on ourselves, time is not wasted or taken away from us. It gives us room to grow and create more space to love, just as what Coach Bayla experienced when she was pregnant with her youngest child. 36:33 There is an adjustment period in marriage that can easily be skipped when a couple has a child early in the relationship, and this can be a big stressor on marriage. 45:10 Listen up, husbands! Coach Bayla shares tips on how to support your wife during pregnancy. 54:14 Coaching in whatever aspect in your life can help you transform into your full potential. 55:32 Coach Bayla’s Awaken to You for Moms Podcast just launched on all major outlets for podcasts. Links Coach Bayla: Website | Instagram | Facebook | Awaken to You for Moms Podcast Circle, Arrow, Spiral: Exploring Gender in Judaism by Miriam Kosman 5 Surprising Ways to Improve Your MarriageMarriage Breakthrough Retreat Let’s Connect! Connected for Real is on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn For more information about Connected for Real, visit the website! Subscribe to the PodcastSpotify | Google Podcasts | Apple Podcasts REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMAN Welcome to the Connected For Real Podcast! I’m Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, a marriage coach for women in business, and my mission is to bring God’s presence into your life, into your marriage, and into your business. Let’s get started. The following is one of the many conversations I had with experts and professionals about real life and how it affects marriage. Let me know your takeaways on Instagram or Facebook, @connectedforreal. Enjoy. And we are live. Welcome everyone. Yes welcome everyone to our live and podcast. I am Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman. This is Eleazar, my baby and it's Bayla. Bayla, tell us everything about you because this is an amazing fascinating podcast all about young mothers.