Hot Topic Bonus: “Too Good” in Marriage

In This EpisodeWhen you reach a “perfect” marriage, always remember that you can break that ceiling and make it even better. We are trained to focus on what we have and we get guilty for wanting more, but God created lack. He programmed us to want more because it makes us realize His love. The Marriage Breakthrough Retreat starts on Monday and it’s going to show you how to turn a good marriage into a greater one, improve your business and purpose, and align these with God. Highlights00:24 There is a difference between gratitude and wanting more.00:16 Void and lack are part of creation so we can realize that God into our lives.02:32 We are trained to focus on what we have and what's good, and we get guilty for wanting more.03:49 Even if your marriage is already "perfect," remember that it can be even better.04:16 The Marriage Breakthrough Retreat is meant to make a good marriage greater and go to the next level.04:51 Focusing on lack creates a vessel for receiving more of God's abundance.05:25 God wants to keep giving us what we want and need, especially His love.06:32 The Marriage Breakthrough Retreat starts on Monday. Sign up here!08:30 What keeps us from asking and receiving is that we feel bad about moving from a "good" place with our husbands. Get out of your own head and love the way the world was created--with lack built in. Use it as a way to seek more connection and abundance in this life. LinksMarriage Breakthrough Retreat5 Surprising Ways to Improve Your MarriageRecipe for Happiness Let’s Connect!Connected for Real is on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedInFor more information about Connected for Real, visit the website! Subscribe to the PodcastSpotify | Google Podcasts | Apple Podcasts REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMANWelcome to the Connected For Real Podcast! I’m Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, a marriage coach for women in business, and my mission is to bring God’s presence into your life, into your marriage, and into your business. Let’s get started. And we are live. Welcome to today's hot topic bonus, and today the topic is Too Much. This is something that comes up a lot. Too much in marriage. “My marriage is so good if I ask for it to be any better, it would be like I'm ungrateful for what I have.” Same thing with our business. “My business is doing so well. If I try to even imagine it being the next level, growing, then am I really ungrateful for what I have.” So there's a big, big difference between gratitude and wanting more, and I don't think that they have to contradict but I know that they feel really icky if they don't sit right. So we're going to talk about that today. So here's what's going on. Basically, I just came back from the class that I am part of with randa tar, who is amazing and we're learning Mesillat Yesharim, which is the path the just—I’m making that up I have no idea how you call that in English. We're learning about really creating space and creating space in order to bring God into it and sort of fill that space right because we want to become more spiritual. We want to be more watchful of what we're doing. We want to live a more aligned life, so we—step one is create space and step two is realizing that the void is part of creation— that God created lack for a reason. He created lack for you to realize you need Him and you need to turn to Him. You need to connect, ask, and bring Him to be part of your life and as a partner in your everyday existence. It's funny because really, if you think about it, our existence is so dependent on Him. We wouldn't be here without Him, but we don't think of it like that on our day-to-day basis. So, what does it mean to create space and lean into that lack? How do we focus on the lack when we've been trained to focus on what's good, focus on what I have, focus on everything that is so that you can be happy?  I even gave a class on this, The Recipe for Happiness, and the answer to what the recipe was 50% gratitude and 50% victories. So,