15. Time Management & Marriage with Helen Abelesz

In This EpisodeA good life and marriage require time management. Helen Abelesz, a Life Coach, works with women who are overwhelmed and need help prioritizing themselves and everything else in their lives. In this episode, she gives advice and tools to use to make your marriage happier and how to feel calm every day. Highlights00:55 Helen Abelesz works with busy moms who forget to put themselves as a priority and look after themselves.03:36 Taking ourselves out of the situation and having a mantra or positive affirmation can help us when we are feeling overwhelmed.05:48 The reason we get overwhelmed is that we try to do too many things. Multitasking is not always the best.07:00 Rebbetzin Bat-Chen agrees that it is important to focus on one thing at a time, and gives examples of how she disconnects from her phone to be with her children.08:59 When it comes to tidying up, Rebbetzin Bat-Chen shares a tip she learned from her friend, who looks at her house from another perspective--on top of a chair!10:22 Music is another fun way to get the kids to clean up at Helen's home.13:54 There are subcategories to time management, such as systems that can be put in place to make your life flow better.14:28 We make millions of decisions every day. Planning ahead helps control stress and allows your day to run smoothly.16:50 Decision fatigue happens when you get exhausted from making decisions. Rebbetzin Bat-Chen uses if-then systems to plan ahead and is her key to success.18:11 The first video uploaded on Connected for Real's YouTube page is all about Rebbetzin Bat-Chen's journey of working on herself to stop that all-or-nothing nature and doing just one thing: prayer.19:49 Everyone has their one thing. During the Marriage Breakthrough Retreat, one of the participants shared what they do to create their system.20:34 A listener and friend of Rebbetzin Bat-Chen asks Helen the question: How to have a cleaning up session? Three-year-old doesn't want to help with his mess and it will take less time to clean it up myself, but on the other hand, we miss on the concept of cleanup after you play.21:58 From one parent to another, believing in your child is so important in parenting. Trust that your child will do what needs to be done when he/she is ready, whether it is to clean up or make bigger decisions.24:58 Helen is asked what to do when you're a night person, and your husband is a morning person. This has a lot to do with time management because not everyone is in the zone at the same times of the day.28:53 Hashem made us different on purpose. It is natural to be different from your spouse because you learn skills, tools, and abilities from each other.31:13 Women can forget to put themselves first, even in the littlest of things, such as food.32:05 The woman is the center of her world, and marriage revolves around her. If a wife doesn't prioritize herself, everything can fall apart.33:27 In coaching sessions with Helen where clients say that they don't have time, they examine their weekly schedule and what they do. Helen helps women look at how they are using their time.34:27 Journaling is a cool tool that Rebbetzin Bat-Chen uses to write down hour by hour what she remembers she did.37:43 Remember to be kind to yourself. You don't have to be doing too many things at once. LinksHelen Abelesz: Facebook | Website5 Surprising Ways to Improve Your MarriageMarriage Breakthrough RetreatSleep Lady Method Videos MentionedGet Clarity – Be Productive – Stay Consistent VideoParenting Styles & Marriage - Video Let’s Connect!Connected for Real is on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedInFor more information about Connected for Real, visit the website! Subscribe to the PodcastSpotify | Google Podcasts | Apple Podcasts REBBETZIN BAT-CHEN GROSSMANWelcome to the Connected For Real Podcast! I’m Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, a marriage coach for women in business, and my mission is to bring God’s presence into your life, into your marriage,