13. Role Reversal with Mascha Siekkötter

In This EpisodeMascha Siekkötter is the host of the Connected for Real for this episode. She attended the Connected for Real Intimacy Masterclass and loved it so much because of the practical advice given by Rebbetzin Bat-Chen. Mascha interviews Rebbetzin Bat-Chen Grossman, about the Connected for Real Intimacy Masterclass, her story and mission as a marriage coach, and some common issues married women have, such as bringing back the fireworks. This episode is a preview of Rebbetzin Bat-Chen's approach to bringing God into your life and marriage. Highlights02:08 Rebbetzin Bat-Chen has been married for 15 years, and this is what inspired Connected for Real.02:42 The answer to any problem or feeling “stuck” is always in marriage. Rebbetzin Bat-Chen received a mission from God to help married women bring God into their relationship with their husband.04:57 In the Jewish community, intimacy is a private topic, so Rebbetzin Bat-Chen builds trust through her one-on-ones to help women open up but still feel comfortable talking about intimacy.05:40 Intimacy is taught to Jewish brides through a kallah teacher, but there isn’t usually a follow-up once the woman is married.06:43 The most common question that women ask Rebbetzin Bat-Chen about intimacy is “How do I bring back the fireworks?”07:41 Rebbetzin Bat-Chen’s mission is to end mediocre marriages.08:57 The goal of the Connected for Real Masterclass is for every woman to know that it’s possible to feel amazing about life, marriage, and intimacy.09:50 Marriage should always allow you to grow.10:21 Opening up about intimacy or other deep topics with a girlfriend is different with a marriage coach, and it’s okay to choose who you talk to these about.11:28 Rebbetzin Bat-Chen shares that she feared success, not failure when she started as a marriage coach on Connected for Real.11:51 God is the reason why Rebbetzin Bat-Chen started her mission to help bring Him to the center of marriage.14:03 The approach that Rebbetzin Bat-Chen takes as a marriage coach is nice and delicate in order for you to change your mindset about your marriage.15:39 Another question that was always asked in the Intimacy Masterclass was “What if I’m not in the mood?”16:26 Mindset is the first thing that is addressed in the Intimacy Masterclass, and Rebbetzin Bat-Chen does this in a concrete way so you believe it’s possible to feel amazing about intimacy.20:04 The advice that Rebbetzin Bat-Chen gives is always practical and easy to do, because she believes that you can ground the connection you have with God and apply His love in your marriage and in the real world.22:23 Mascha attended the Intimacy Masterclass and loved the experience. More information about it can be found at connectedforreal.com.22:56 How we were conditioned and brought up made us believe that we have to do things in order to receive something good, but when it comes to marriage, your spouse just wants to make you feel good and appreciated even if you don’t do anything.26:36 Receiving is a feminine super power that we need to connect to.27:36 Rebbetzin Bat-Chen shares how she stopped being dependent on her husband for happiness and relied on God instead.31:18 Mascha is an artist and art teacher who teaches artists how to sell their art and market it.34:08 Journaling helped Rebbetzin Bat-Chen become more visible in her field, and also guided her to become aligned with her mission for God.36:08 Rebbetzin Bat-Chen has experienced vulnerability hangovers, but the anchor thought that keeps her safe is that what happened was as it was supposed to be.37:37 The most important takeaway that Rebbetzin Bat-Chen wants women to remember is that we are all going through the same thing. Links5 Surprising Ways to Improve Your MarriageMarriage Breakthrough RetreatCathy HellerBrené Brown Books MentionedThe Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle Let’s Connect!Connected for Real is on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedInFor more information about Connected for Re...