#65 "It's not them...it's YOU : The Magic of Transforming Parenting in 2025"

Happy New Year, and welcome to 2025! In this empowering episode of Parenting Teens: Advice Redefined for Today’s Complex World, host Cheryl Pankhurst shares a transformative message for parents of teens: The magic is in you—it’s not them.

Discover how to redefine your role as a parent and build stronger, more meaningful relationships with your teenagers by shifting your perspective and focusing on your inner growth. Cheryl offers insights on setting intentional goals, modeling authenticity, and embracing the small victories along the parenting journey.

Are you ready to break free from overwhelm and reconnect with your true self? Learn how coaching can illuminate hidden paths and empower you to lead your family with clarity, trust, and compassion.

Tune in for actionable strategies, fresh perspectives, and a vision to create the life and family dynamic you’ve always dreamed of

Cheryl

00:01 - 00:39

Welcome back to Parenting Teens Advice Redefined for today's complex world. I am your host, Cheryl Pankhurst, and I'm thrilled to be here with you today as we step into the new year of 2025. Happy New Year, everyone, and I hope you're feeling refreshed and ready to embrace this year with new perspectives and potential. And do you even know what day it is right now? These Christmas holidays, I don't even know what day it is. I have to keep checking the calendar. I want to take a moment to reflect on our journey so far and share an important message that I believe can truly transform your experience as a parent of a teenager.

Cheryl

00:39 - 01:15

As we welcome 2025, it's essential to recognize that this year brings with it opportunities, challenges, and most importantly, the power to redefine your role as a parent. Throughout the past year, I've had the privilege of engaging with various guest experts on the podcast, each sharing their wisdom and insights. And 1 thing that became abundantly clear, the magic is in you, it's not them. The realization may be simple but it holds profound implications for how we navigate our relationships with our teens. See, I'm here to tell you that you have full control over your relationship with your teenager.

Cheryl

01:16 - 01:50

You also have the power to shape your own life as a parent. Coaching can illuminate paths you didn't even know were there. It can help you see the light in what sometimes feels like darkness and I would be honoured to be that guide holding the flashlight for you, helping you discover those hidden pathways. Having worked with numerous families and being a parent of teens myself, I truly understand the challenge of this phase of life can be. But I also know there's a way forward. There's a shift in perspective available to all of us that allows us to see the beauty and hope in our relationships.

Cheryl

01:51 - 02:30

When we embrace this shift, we can move from being stuck to feeling empowered, from feeling overwhelmed to feeling hopeful, and from struggling to thriving with our teams. Yes, it is possible. As we enter the new year, I invite you to consider how you approach your resolutions. Instead of setting resolutions that often lead to disappointment and self-doubt when they fall off the track, let's think of setting goals or creating visions or even revisions. Ask yourself, what kind of relationship do I envision with my teenager? 1 rooted in trust, empathy and compassion? This is a vision we can cultivate.

Cheryl

02:30 - 03:07

It begins with the inner work you do for yourself, with yourself. Remember, our teens are always watching us, even when they may not be listening. They're absorbing our actions, our values, and how we stand in our own truths. What if you could set an example for them in living authentically and embracing your own power and aligning in your own values? How might that change the narrative in your home? How would that influence the way your teen approaches the world? This new year, I challenge you to shift the focus inward and reflect on what you can do.

Cheryl

03:08 - 03:49

Let's foster those connections, embrace the journey and get curious about how we can grow alongside our teams. It's not about perfection, but rather progress and embracing the small victories along the way. I'm looking forward to sharing more insights and strategies and experiences with you throughout 2025. And I thank you for being a part of this journey with me. If you find any of today's episode valuable or any other episode valuable, please share it with your fellow parents. And don't forget to subscribe for more discussions that can empower you and your family. Wishing you a joyous New Year filled with opportunities for growth, connection and transformation.

Cheryl

03:50 - 04:45

Until next time, take care. Remember, it's you, not them, who holds the magic in your hands. Thank you for listening. Thank you for listening to another episode and I just wanted to share something with you because you know parenting teens is not just about managing these challenges that we talk about on all the episodes, it's also about evolving alongside them. And I'm Cheryl and not only the host of this podcast, but I'm also the creator of Insight to Impact, coaching and consulting. And I help you moms of teens reconnect with your true selves so you can lead with purpose, you can parent with clarity, you can create stronger, more meaningful relationships with your kids.

Cheryl

04:46 - 05:20

Because here's the truth, The transformation starts with you. Together, we will break free from the stress and overwhelm. We will rediscover your power. We will create the life and the family dynamic you always dreamed of. If you're ready to start this journey, let's do it. You might just not recognize your life in the next 90 days. It all starts with a call. There's no pitch. There's no pressure, just a call to see if I can help. We'll talk about your goals. We'll talk about what's making you feel stuck and what might be getting in your way.

Cheryl

05:20 - 05:38

And everything you need to connect with me is in the show notes. Again, I'm Cheryl. Thank you so much for joining me here on Parenting Teens, advice redefined for today's complex world and the creator of Insight to Impact, coaching and consulting. Have a great day.