Inner Peace End the Battle Within (113) - Dailys SHORT with Kim & Jill

Unlock the power of your inner battles in today's insightful episode! Join Kim and Jill as they delve into the complexities of internal struggles, exploring how these conflicts can serve as powerful tools for self-discovery and growth. Discover why we often seek validation from others and how dividing our thoughts can lead to unnecessary pain.

Key Takeaways:
- Learn how fear and anger, when used positively, can fuel personal development.
- Understand the importance of questioning your need for external validation.
- Explore techniques to identify what you truly need in moments of conflict.

Tune in now to transform your inner battles into pathways for empowerment and clarity.

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Hello, everyone, and good morning, Kim. Good morning, Jill. Good morning, everyone. It is a Monday morning for us today. Yeah. How'd everyone do with their practice since Friday's message? I don't remember what the practice was, man. I remember spinning the wheel. I do remember that Wheel of Fortune. Yep. Burning things if you could. Envisioning burning them if you didn't want or couldn't use any flame or fire. Yeah. Yep, yep. I did that in my head, like right after our talk on Friday. So I was like, I got through a few things and then I just sat within my head really fast and I let it go. So I hope everybody enjoyed that one from last week.

Hey, today the talk is about inner battle. So what, in or out? I'm actually getting twitches on this one. It was not before. So I had kind of an odd dream. Jill and I were talking prior to hitting recording on here, and we noticed there's a theme of inner battles going on that people are struggling with. It's like you're looking for somebody to take your side or prove with you that you're right. So there’s that battle—there's a battle that something's wrong with you; it's going to go into a very negative state.

And they're actually showing me slapping, clapping me up by the head and being like, stop that, stop that. I'm like, but how do people stop that? How do people stop like that? The battles inside of ourselves are actually really good; they can be a very powerful, useful tool, can make you rethink things, make you really understand where you're at, ask questions. Fear was designed in our body as a really good thing—it's to help if you're the one that everybody says is being chased by a bear; you need that fear inside of you to either run away, fight, or be still—whatever, okay? That is used appropriately for that situation.

And they're like, this is the same thing; you can use anger in a very positive way—as in it can provide you fuel. Like, this is the same thing when you have an inner battle going on. When you look, ask yourself if you're looking for validation from other people. If you're constantly looking for validation to say "right," like after you're done saying something, you say "right," or "do you understand," or "do you agree?" Right? So you're asking a question after you state it. I've seen that a lot by people—that's telling you that you're not quite sure about what you're saying or what you believe in or... yeah, you're just not quite sure; you question even your own statement—like that's an inner battle you've got going on.

What's the other thing? Besides, Jill, you mentioned the sides earlier—like... yeah... I don't really know if people—I know I didn't for years—I don't know if people realize how unconsciously we'll divide our own thinking and divide the world up into stuff and put things into sides and pick a side—that kind of thing. And it has its place; there's no doubt we’re not saying that it’s bad when it gets out of balance.

Yeah, and it's almost like there's a tune-in that's needed for that side when you realize internally there's a battle of some sort—when there's two sides battling each other. And when you said... you said the knock upside the head—you said the knock upside the head and stop that—I think it's because we're either picking a side for something that doesn't need that situation or perhaps we're picking the wrong side—and we're picking the side that's like we're beating ourselves up rather than supporting ourselves and going "okay, I'm not perfect." That’s a side—I’m not perfect; there could be a side—and it's way gentler to say "I'm not perfect" than to go "I'm so stupid," "I'm dumb," "I did this again." Being hard on ourselves—so it's like we really have to tune in to what degree... that's what I'm getting—like to what degree are we taking a battle internally or externally?

Because battles divide. Yep. And dividing—although you can learn from it like you said Kim—you can—but dividing quite honestly is painful—it’s difficult; it hurts! Usually when we're learning from it it's because we haven't chosen to learn from it sooner or whatever is dividing us and we had to get to that kind of intensive painful moment to catch our attention.

Yep! Yep! So yeah—I mean battles dividing sides—it has its place—but boy it can spiral into hurtful territory really fast! Yep! And it hurts—not hurting other people—and you don't realize how you're storing that then in your body—and you're actually... yeah—it’s like literally—you’re in a battle with yourself! You are knocking yourself down; you're punching yourself out! Right? Knocking yourself out—and then you're getting back up—you have stars going—and you're going in for another round!

And I think what we're seeing is rather than going in for another round—like stop and ask! Right Kim—to encourage people—ask: What am I battling here? Or why do I feel such a need to beat myself down? Or some people literally will beat others down—and they may not do it physically; some people do it verbally—there are lots of ways—but it's just like go inside and ask: What is going on inside of me that I'm feeling such a compulsion to do this—to beat myself up—or maybe even just say: "I can't deal with asking why right now." Like you said: “I was gonna imagine knocking myself upside the head and stop.” 

Yep! Wow! Oh wow! I have a memory of—I was going to grab something—and inadvertently my other hand slapped my hand that was going to grab it—and I stopped—and it wasn't anybody else that did it—it was me—and I got in my head—I’m like: “What?” And it's like: “Well, you told us to slap you!” Like oh my gosh! Like—and it was so subconscious—and it happened so fast—and I just burst out laughing—I'm like: “Thank you—I needed that!”

So yeah—maybe ask your spirit guides for a little bit of a slap upside the head today—a gentle one if you want—not to inflict any more pain!

No! Yeah! There’s some levity needed with it and some laughter definitely! I do think ultimately though—it’s a really good question—and I practice this when I catch myself being divisive—taking sides—or wanting people to agree with my perspective—to really ask: What do I need? What is it that I need that I'm not getting?

Yes! Because I'm not giving it to myself—what do I need? This is when you're going to... oh sorry there was just like... sorry if everybody—I’m driving and somebody decided to slam on the brakes on an icy road right in front of me—I’m like: “What are you doing?” There you go!

Done! Talk about a battle—that's the internal battle as to: Okay how are you gonna handle that? Which side are you gonna go on? 

Yeah see—I have fun when I drive—you guys—but... yeah sorry!

No that's okay—but when we're like really in that—and catch ourselves in that battle—internally externally whatever it may be—if you really want to get down to the core—the heart of the issue—I’d suggest sitting down and asking: What do I need right now? That it's something that you need—that you're not allowing yourself access to.

The needs are interesting—that's its own topic deeper than today—but what do I need? 

Yep! Yeah—a lot of times when people are battling—they feel unsafe—they need a... I'll give that as a clue—they need more safety—and if you need more safety—a lot of times—you have some pretty intensive internal battles going on—that need to be put out.

What do I need? And I'm not—I’m just saying this is one round—and it's pretty big one—that I've discovered for myself and others—but there are loads of others too.

Yeah yep exactly—what do I need right now? And we always receive it—when you're open—you always receive it!

Just say: “I need whatever it is—I need to feel safe right now—or safer”—whatever—and I'm open to receive that!

There you go! And see what happens with that battle—I just even feel like oh—I can just feel my body starting to relax a little bit as we're talking about this—it’s crunchy and edgy and all sorts of interesting energy around it—and now it's starting to calm and clear!

All right—I love it Jill! Thank you!

Thank you Kim! Glad you're safe! Glad that worked out on those icy roads.

Oh yeah—I wholeheartedly before I go driving—a little tip for everybody—you put a bubble around yourself—you imagine yourself getting to your place and your car looks exactly the same—you imagine yourself pulling up—and then just saying: “I trust that I'll be guided on the right path on my way there”—and “I get there safe”—and feeling strong—feeling proud!

So I'd frame that under needs—I would say—you fulfill the need—to have support in your experience there—to be supported by life basically—you know—and when we're not supported—we can melt down too!

So well done Kim! I'm sure you've been practicing that one for awhile!

Yep yep cool! What do I need? I'm gonna play with that today—what do I need big and small?

All right well thank you so much Kim—and thank you everyone—have a wonderful day until next time!