Assumptions The Flaw in Your Plan to Happiness (126) - Dailys SHORT with Kim & Jill
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In today's episode, Kim and Jill delve into the theme of assumptions—how easily they form and their potential to cause harm. The discussion highlights personal anecdotes, insights on manifestation, and practical advice for overcoming the habit of assuming.
Key Takeaways
Assumptions are Easy but Harmful: They often lead to frustration and anger when things don't go as expected.
Personal Anecdote: Kim shares a driving experience that triggered reflections on assumptions about others' actions.
The Flaw in the Plan: A recurring concept discussed by Jill; it suggests that perfection is an illusion, leading us to default toward negative outcomes if unchecked.
Manifestation Missteps: When setting intentions or goals, avoid "should have," "could have," or "would have" mindsets—they're counterproductive.
Insights & Reflections
Assumptions can mask underlying issues like blame-shifting instead of taking responsibility.
Repeatedly making assumptions without recognizing them perpetuates less-than-optimal states in our lives.
Actionable Advice
Awareness: Recognize when you're assuming something. This is the first step towards change.
Response Control: Instead of reacting negatively to unmet expectations from assumptions, focus on how you respond constructively.
Shake It Off Technique:
Physically shake off negativity when you catch yourself assuming.
Reset your mindset and start fresh with a conscious effort not to assume again.
Breaking Habits:
Regularly practice self-awareness exercises until breaking the assumption habit becomes second nature.
Cultural Reference Reminder:
For those familiar with Saturday Night Live's skit 'Assume,' it's a humorous take on this very topic worth revisiting for some light-hearted perspective.
Closing Thoughts
Kim and Jill encourage listeners to actively work towards breaking free from habitual assumptions over the weekend while embracing positive changes moving forward. Enjoy your weekend and be sure tooin us again on Monday for more insightful discussions!
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In today's episode, Kim and Jill delve into the theme of assumptions—how easily they form and their potential to cause harm. The discussion highlights personal anecdotes, insights on manifestation, and practical advice for overcoming the habit of assuming.
Key Takeaways
Assumptions are Easy but Harmful: They often lead to frustration and anger when things don't go as expected.
Personal Anecdote: Kim shares a driving experience that triggered reflections on assumptions about others' actions.
The Flaw in the Plan: A recurring concept discussed by Jill; it suggests that perfection is an illusion, leading us to default toward negative outcomes if unchecked.
Manifestation Missteps: When setting intentions or goals, avoid "should have," "could have," or "would have" mindsets—they're counterproductive.
Insights & Reflections
Assumptions can mask underlying issues like blame-shifting instead of taking responsibility.
Repeatedly making assumptions without recognizing them perpetuates less-than-optimal states in our lives.
Actionable Advice
Awareness: Recognize when you're assuming something. This is the first step towards change.
Response Control: Instead of reacting negatively to unmet expectations from assumptions, focus on how you respond constructively.
Shake It Off Technique:
Physically shake off negativity when you catch yourself assuming.
Reset your mindset and start fresh with a conscious effort not to assume again.
Breaking Habits:
Regularly practice self-awareness exercises until breaking the assumption habit becomes second nature.
Cultural Reference Reminder:
For those familiar with Saturday Night Live's skit 'Assume,' it's a humorous take on this very topic worth revisiting for some light-hearted perspective.
Closing Thoughts
Kim and Jill encourage listeners to actively work towards breaking free from habitual assumptions over the weekend while embracing positive changes moving forward. Enjoy your weekend and be sure tooin us again on Monday for more insightful discussions!
Are assumptions silently sabotaging your peace of mind? Join Kim and Jill as they delve into the pervasive habit of making assumptions and how it can derail our intentions. Drawing from personal experiences, like unexpected lane changes during a morning drive, this episode explores where assumptions originate and their impact on our daily lives.
Key takeaways include:
- Understanding how assumptions lead to misplaced blame.
- Strategies for recognizing and overcoming assumption habits.
- The importance of taking ownership rather than defaulting to blame.
Tune in to learn how shaking off these habits can lead to a more mindful life. Don't miss out—listen now!
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Hello, everyone, and good morning, Kim. Good morning, Jill. Good morning, everyone.
Today's message that's coming through really strong already is talking about assumptions and how, one, they're easy to do, but yet they can be very detrimental to us. Part of it was on my drive this morning. There was a car falling out in one lane that just decided to come right into my lane in front of me. I could move over, no problem, but it really pinged off of me. Like, why would he do that? I'm sure a lot of you have experienced that. I just moved over graciously and let him have that space. I didn't get angry; in the past, I would have gotten very frustrated.
But this one, the word assumption. He assumed I would just move over for him. He assumed there was room next to me and that I should move over for him. I was like, oh yeah. Then all these memories came flooding back of how I just assumed somebody liked it this way or I assumed that something was done for work, and when I got to work it wasn’t done. The anger that built up from that was just insane.
Now I'm asking in my head right now, where did assumption really come from? Where did we start assuming that things would be perfect? And then they're pointing at you, Jill. And I hear it's the flaw in the plan. Oh my goodness. Yep. So I'm pulling to when we manifest and we put our intentions out there and we work very hard at what we think should be there—what we want to be there—should have, could have, would have; by the way, just throw them out the window. We really don’t need the shoulda, coulda, would haves.
This is more… oh, it's really pinging off of a lot of you today. Wow, I just got hit very hard. Okay, then I can pull back to the flaw in the plan. If some of you have been with us for a long time—listening to our podcast or listening to any of our talks that we've been doing for quite a long time now—Jill has talked about the flaw in the plan. It was never designed that way; it just started being created over time.
There's the flaw: we think everything's perfect and then it's like, oh, but it's not perfect! There's nothing you could do about it. What you can do is control how you respond and say, okay wow! Like, I recognized—I assumed! And then I hear: how many times do you have to assume before you realize that you need to stop assuming? That's the flaw in the plan.
We can keep assuming over and over again—we can assume for the rest of our lives—and it's an example of this flawed plan; it allows us to create negativity or less than optimal results or whatever it might be. Some people might say that's free will; it's actually not even that. There's this possibility for things to tip towards that not-so-optimal state.
And yet we will default to that as if we weren't designed to default to a not-optimal state; somewhere along the line we agreed to that. We're like, well, I'll just keep assuming. I mean, we're not thinking that consciously but we assume over and over again.
Yep! And anyone who... we have to say it: Kim! Anyone who's familiar with Saturday Night Live "assumes" skit—get Leonard! If you're not familiar with it—Google it! Yeah, exactly—a funny one from years ago.
Okay, they're plopping this in there to blame. It's like you use “assume.” Well, I assumed you were going to do this—to blame somebody else instead of using the word blame; people started using “assuming.” Well, I assumed this instead of saying “I'm blaming you for doing this.” In essence—it’s not even that—they're saying that the two of assumption and blaming are connected; if you're assuming something that means you're blaming something—you’re not taking ownership.
So wow! That’s cutting to the chase—I like it! Yeah! I've got to stop assuming!
Yeah—me too! Me too honey! And the blame and other things that come along with it—they're really... yeah—when you look at it they’re really pretty icky aren’t they?
Yeah!
Wow everyone! Brush it off! Brush off your shoulders; wiggle it out! Do some jumping today—let it go! And when you catch yourself assuming—do that same thing: shake it off; reset; start again! Shake it off; reset; start again until we break that assuming habit!
Break the assuming habit!
Thank you Kim!
Yeah—thank you Jill!
Thank you everyone—and it's Friday so have a wonderful weekend and we'll be back again Monday!
