Secrets of Group Harmony - Daily MINI-CAST with Kim & Jill

Embark on a journey of self-discovery and drama-free living in this episode of "Mountain Reflections." 🌄 Discover how a road trip to the picturesque Gatlinburg in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee taught valuable lessons about group dynamics and the power of perspective. With 14 women from Florida to Minnesota gathering for an unforgettable weekend, insightful discussions emerge around handling interpersonal conflicts and maintaining harmony.

Key Takeaways:
- Learn how stepping back can transform your perception and minimize unnecessary drama.
- Understand the impact of holding space for others without imposing opinions or judgments.
- Embrace new expereinces (i.e road trips) as opportunities for growth, connection, and joy.

Tune in now to explore these transformative insights that promise to enrich your life and relationships! 🎧

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Hello, lovely listeners, and good morning, Kim. Good morning, Jill. Good morning, everyone. Welcome back. We survived a trip. Well, not Jill and I, but like, we, as in me and my family, survived a trip to Gatlinburg in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee.

Yeah. Let me tell you, anybody who's listening from that area, I give props to how you drive in those mountains. Wow. And if anybody has taken a trip there. Yeah. Buckle up. Oh, it's beautiful there, though. Beautiful. The photos were beautiful. The adventure stories are funny too.

Yes. It was a really, really good time. There was total 14 women that met up basically in Tennessee from between Florida and Minnesota. And it was just great. It was great.

Throughout the years, we weeded out some drama, people's weekend trips, or once a year we'll do like a weekend trip. And it started off with this huge group and it's gotten down to, like, sometimes a smaller group is able to go. And this time was a medium size with 14 people.

And it was... The people that were there were very beautiful. They're very kind and loving. They don't really create a whole lot of drama. Very nice.

But there was an incident that asung. A couple people you could tell were starting to cause a little bit of a riff over somebody else. And I had got feelings saying, like, we're not seeing the whole picture, like, just because that person might have had that experience in the past.

Well, it was somebody who got sick and they're like, oh, she does this all the time. I'm like, well, maybe in your area, but she's out of her element. Like, what else is going on here? And it was very interesting to watch how some people right away go into that almost a blame and they're trying to wreck it for the rest.

And I was able to, like, just walk away, choose not to go into that drama.

Yeah. And it was really cool to see the amount of girls that actually didn't want to get involved in the drama. They just stuck stuff back. I'm like, wow, that's cool.

Yeah. But yet there's still a few that were... Well, she's always done this. Something's not right about this.

I found out the next day reason why she was sick. And it was beyond her control. It was not her mind. It was not that she was creating her own sickness.

She actually ingested something that it was, say, like food poisoning, but something similar. And so it did make her stomach upset.

And so it's... That was out of her element.

Yeah.

So...

And once we found out the reason why, then we're all kind of like, oh, yep, that makes sense. That makes sense.

Oh my gosh.

And she had a beautiful weekend and there was no more drama.

Yeah.

But it's funny how say in the past, the groups, the people that were in the groups made a big difference for one.

Yeah.

They would have gone into the drama right away.

Boom.

Wrecked it for everybody.

And here we had amazing amount of girls that were able to kind of hold the space.

Enough people that were holding this space.

So it didn't over our energy was able to like basically outpower the more dramatic people.

Yeah.

So it didn't let theirs have fuel.

Yeah,

I totally know because a lot of times we're in situations in the summertime especially and then also on vacations and holidays with... We're in situations where we don't have such a non dramatic group if you will.

And...

And that's the skill that's needed.

Kim is definitely like how those of you who are willing to say okay I see the perspective but my perspective and my opinion just isn't that important.

It just is what it is.

And you're like masterful at that Kim you are very much like there it is there's the facts there it is like literally you're like who cares I don't think you consciously think this but you're kind of like who cares what I think about it or my opinion because no one actually does

Yep they don't

And if you would have thrown your opinion out there and been like that's what it is this is what it is this is what it is it adds to the drama or it creates a fight or an argument

And I'm telling you I used to be just absolutely the queen of that

Like I felt this compulsion to make my point

Thank goodness I have like broken that one

Done

You know where you just go there it is

It is this situation

And you like you said you can it's like your energy is all kind of banded together

To me what I got was like it freezes out the drama

Yeah

It just can't grow and it can't overpower or ruin things which is delightful

Yeah

Yep there's the couple that wanted

I don't want to say they didn't want to stroke drama

That was not their intention

But like you said that opinion they would go in there and they would try to like tell her what to do and say you have to do this well if you're not going to do this you're not going to get better

And I'm like whoa which is okay if she didn't want to get better she needed her process that's okay

Yeah

Yep

And once she figured out the reason why because her instinct that gut feeling was telling her like well that's not going to probably fix me anyways or like that's not the right thing she listened to herself

She pulled in and we held the space for her and she found the answer and then was kind of like oh my gosh okay then everybody was like super calm

But it's like the people that are creating the drama I said see?

But you have to go to the extreme yeah so much drama is created by us imposing on others our perception our opinion our really it's you're you're let's say I'm with you Kim somewhere and you're not feeling well and I'm like you're not feeling well is making me uncomfortable here's what you need to do to fix just feels like an attack on me

Like I feel like wow I start to feel crappier then exactly where it's just like okay you don't feel well some open hearted just compassion or if you can do compassion which is perfectly fine to just respect and space there you go that's where you are

And the same thing with I just years years years ago oh my gosh I go right back to this visual we were at a campfire groups of people it was a lot of fun family some friends some people we knew some that we didn't

And one particular person off the charts dramatic off the charts literally tried so hard to wreck this good time because she didn't what she was seeing wasn't acceptable to her she didn't want to do this people weren't partying or playing the way she wanted to and so she was gonna wreck it

And she was probably one of the most like powerful single drama let me wreck this situation people I'd ever experienced and everyone else did exactly what you described there everyone else is just like in your situation everyone else's energy just came together and it was like no we're not doing that like it wasn't no you can't be that you can act like she sat there pissed and would not leave and the entire party just kept going on around her my perception of it was it was hilarious because the contrast between the two and my experience up until then Kim had been that people like that with that off the charts drama had actually ruined fun times for others 

And in that situation just by people going I mean it is what it is you can be pissed off you can be upset you can be angry 

And what it really was was again it just wasn't going the way she wanted to 

Well you know really the thing to do at that stage then is say this isn't going the way I want to 

And then you just excuse yourself and you go do whatever 

Yep exactly 

It just turns out more beautiful and you come home with a smile on your face saying you had a great vacation you had a great experience 

Yeah yeah 

But your skill 

And that's what to me would be the takeaway is to bring that just...

It is there it is there it is okay 

And Kim you also add to that there's also big piece that you bring to it 

You go here's what I see but I also know full well I don't know everything that's going on here 

And so you focus on that rather than your opinion or your drama or your gossiping or any of that other stuff 

It's like a superpower and I rarely use that 

I rarely use that but it really is ah wow wonderful 

I'm glad you had a wonderful fairly drama free vacation 

Yes it was great 

I highly recommend road trips too 

Yeah yeah road trips are awesome 

It was fun 

But no it's look at look at some of your past experiences with groups and yeah almost like turn your perception look at it differently 

Yep kind of whether show me looking at it at a side angle and like what did you miss or what didn't you see? 

And were you judging that right away or not even judging it? Were you getting your... Oh did you have your foot in that experience? Did you put your opinion on somebody else when they didn't ask? Yep they're right there need step back that's what I saw saw step back then step over side which is giving little separation then shifting perception yep there you go oh my goodness because we're in holiday week here too so loads of people on holiday so that's beautiful thing one step back one step side see how things change yeah love just got so many chills when said Kim beautiful thank Joe thank everyone oh thank Kim alright everyone thanks for listening until next time