Are you stuck in the "puke bucket" of negative self-care?

Are you stuck in the "puke bucket" of negative self-care? Discover how to truly show up for yourself! In this eye-opening episode, Kim and Jill dive deep into what it means to genuinely prioritize your well-being. They explore why we often resort to negative patterns as a form of self-care and introduce a transformative two-step process that starts with just seven minutes a day.

Key Takeaways:
- Break free from the cycle of negativity by dedicating seven minutes daily to positive self-care.
- Recognize how much time you're spending in "negative headspace" versus nurturing activities.
- Shift your mindset from complaining about responsibilities to embracing them as opportunities for growth.

Tune in now and learn how to throw out that metaphorical puke bucket once and for all!

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Hello, lovely listeners and good morning, Kim. Good morning, Jill. Good morning everyone. And good morning to the birds. They're joining us again.

They are. They're so sweet.

Claire: I'll be outdoors.

Yeah. The question that was brought up this morning was what does it mean to show up for yourself?

Yeah. What does it really mean to show up? Jill and I have shared a lot of information in the past on self care and tips and tools, tricks, all these things to take the time for yourself to do all these self cares. But then it really came down to why aren't people doing it?

Yeah.

And I, I think, you know, when we pose the question, what does it mean to show up for yourself? The stuff that started coming to me is I'm like, for some people, showing up for themselves is getting sick.

Yeah.

For some people, showing up for themselves is, you know, just being exasperated by life and just exhausted by life. Like it's like the negative way of giving ourselves permission to show up for ourselves.

Yep.

Oh.

What's weird about it is that I've, I've done, I used to do this all the time. I don't do it like I used to. I'm breaking the habit. But it's been quite a journey to break the habit of showing up for myself through those negative experiences. It was ridiculously consistent.

Yep.

And then we get to where we want to do something from that more—as we'll frame it here anyway—the more positives that we've talked about, Kim, the tips, the tools, it's like we stick with it for a little while and then quit. We stick with it for a little while, then we quit.

And I did start something which was a showing up for myself in a more positive way, a more productive way. And it's seven minutes a day was where I started with it. And that's my base and my minimum is this seven minutes a day. And I basically just called myself out. I was like, Jill, you can show up for yourself seven minutes a day, every day. Not some days, not occasionally, every day.

And it's—I don't know—it's been like four months that I've done it every day no matter what.

No matter what.

And that's the message that I was getting when I got the—like how not—it wasn't even how it was like—show up for yourself! Show up for yourself!

Yeah.

And as you're saying that seven minutes showing up for yourself and the idea of how people are showing up for themselves is in a negative way—I heard—play off of it then.

So that seven minutes: Get your little temper tantrum out. Do all the complaining. You need to complain in that one moment—in that seven minutes—just...

It's almost like—I feel like people just need to shout to get it off of them. Like, do all the complaining.

And then you're done complaining about it.

You're done.

You're done.

Is the showing-up moment, you know?

Yeah.

Good for you for getting it out but calling—you know—done. That's it. Now I'm getting back to life. Now I'm getting back to happy or getting back to enjoyment or getting back to peace or whatever it is.

It's kind of like a two-step show-up-for-yourself process—and we've done the one.

Yep.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's kind of like they show me a puke bucket almost—just put it all in there, tie it up, it's gone; it's done—and then you...

Yeah, it's...

I feel like I'm brushing my hands off; I'm rubbing my shoulders off; just brushing everything off of myself; like—and just shaking off... I'm like alright; okay; good; I'm ready for the day; I'm excited for the day; let's go!

Okay.

Because I'm not going to let all that stuff drag with me throughout the whole entire day.

And I...

I think really, Kim—a lot of that stuff when you say it drags with us—we get stuck in our minds around it or get stuck in the psychology around it or the...

We continued on—like—as gross as it is—it's hard for me to use this metaphor—but you brought it up—the puke bucket.

Yep.

Yep. I mean if you've experienced that before it's not an experience you want to stay in; you're looking forward as fast as you can be done—to be done—and you move on as quickly as you can.

That's exactly—

Kim: I love that example—that's exactly it. When we have our tantrum moments or our frustration moments or whatever—like have them—but it's a puke bucket; get done with it as quickly as you can!

Oh my gosh!

Whoa!

Sometimes the body just wants to be validated and heard and whatever you need—to do—to do.

Yeah.

Goodness!

Oh well there you go! Interesting isn't it?

Very interesting!

That would not be the way I thought this was going to go.

No!

So who would have thought that the phrases self care and puke bucket would show up together?

Nope!

It's brilliant though—it really is—because I think if you—as you use this tip and tool—and what you're going to probably most likely discover—is that you're far more willing to either go to the puke bucket or stay with it a whole lot longer once you shift your perspective—you’re going to be like oh my goodness—I don’t want to stay even some of you sitting there for your seven minutes!

So I actually legit put on a timer for one just to see how long seven minutes is and see how much either you play in that realm with whatever decisions you choose—to let things go—or be with it—to be with your self care moment!

I would love to see people recognize how much you actually spent in say—the puke bucket versus—the filling bucket—in those seven minutes!

Yeah—you kind of get bored—you get like—it gets nauseated—and once you realize how much time you actually spent just with garbage—with the puke—and then you're like wow—I spent that much time there! Holy cow! I need to shift my perspective!

And if you're in it for seven minutes—do another seven—and count how many minutes in a day you're willing to stay in the puke bucket—and call that—and you're calling that self care?

Yeah!

Wow! I will share that again—I cannot—in reflection—I just cannot even realize how much I did that in my life! It's like there's some sort of legitimacy in society—that as long as we come at it from the negative angle—it’s okay—but if you come at it from...

Okay let me give an example: I used to get headaches a lot; if I got a headache—

Oh people—all sorts of people around me—

Oh okay! Oh alright! This...

If I just straight-up went out and played in nature—and what'd you do?

Nothing—I just took it easy—or I just meditated all week!

And people are like oh—I just move on—don’t care—move on—but they'll talk and talk and talk and talk about the headache and the pain and this and that!

It's very odd—it’s very odd—and it's time for us to look at that oddness about it!

And yeah—just instantly when we ask—that—you know how do you show yourself? I was like—we—in general right now—in the United States anyway—we tend to show up in a negative way—and we complain about showing up—for those seven minutes or—the positive thing—

Oh—I have to go to the gym

Oh—I have to do this

Oh—I have to make dinner

Yeah—we do

It’s this...

It’s really scary how much we have put a norm—to this behavior

Yep

Scary

We've normalized the puke bucket

Oh my God

Yep

Okay so when you ask yourself how you show up for yourself if you realize you normalize the puke bucket—we suggest—you do something about that

Uh huh

Wow

Yep

I'm ready to give up my tooth bucket

Me too

Me too

Alright

Wow

Nice turn of events

Thank you Jill

Thank you everyone

Thank you Kim

Yes thank you everyone thanks for listening and good luck throwing out that puke bucket

Alright until next time