Part 1 Shut Up Your Judgmental Mind - Here's How

Ever catch yourself judging without even realizing it? You’re not alone—and this episode dives deep into why.

Join Kim and Jill as they candidly explore the sneaky ways judgment creeps into our daily lives, from grocery store aisles to quiet morning routines. They share personal stories about catching their own inner critics in action and reveal how subtle judgments can impact both your energy and well-being. Discover a simple, eye-opening exercise to help you recognize—then shift—those automatic thoughts before they take over.

Key takeaways:
- Learn to identify what judgment actually feels like in your body
- Try a practical technique for amplifying awareness of self-judgment
- Find out how shifting your perspective can restore balance and calm

Tune in now for relatable insights and actionable tips that’ll help you turn down the volume on self-criticism!

Kim and Jill encourage listeners not to judge themselves for being judgmental! Instead, approach this process playfully—as a game—and celebrate every moment of new self-awareness.

“Turn down the judgment towards your own judgments.”

Thanks for tuning in! Until next time.

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Hello, lovely listeners, and good morning, Kim. Good morning, Jill. Good morning, everyone. We're keeping on the lines—same lines that are coming up. So people are still having issues with this good old judgment. Yeah, I was joking—let's change the name of the podcast to "The Judgment Show." Oh, my goodness.

And it's funny, as we're talking about it, kind of what we're going to go through. I was literally walking through aisles in Coburn's to grab some food for work today, and I heard the voices—and I had my own thoughts. I'm gonna say, not voices, my thoughts in my head. They're very quiet, but they're totally in the back as to judging all the sugars all around, judging all the preservatives and like, "I can't have that. What's there for me here? Why don't they make any food that I can eat?" So then there was this whole poor me attitude that was going on—and it was very quiet. Very quiet back there. But I didn't even realize it was still happening. I thought, personally, I'm doing good. I'm like, wow, I'm still doing some judgments here.

It's wild, isn't it, Kim? I was sharing with Kim that as I was doing my stuff this morning, I had the same experience going on where it's like these thoughts—these automatic thoughts—that used to just go through my mind, my brain...I just didn't—nothing—they had it. I could hear them; like you said, they were quiet but I could hear them.

Yeah. And I was like: judgment, judging, judging this, judging this. Now, deciding you like or don't like something or want or don't want something is one thing—but taking it to judgment is...whoa. It turned into a harmful energy going through my body.

Mm. When I started doing like the "what's here for me?" and I was like—that's when it really hit me as to what my thoughts were doing. Instead of just recognizing: oh, that has sugar—okay not for me—nobody—keep moving on—I twist—somehow I inadvertently twisted it into: well the poor me—there's nothing here for me—whoa! Right? Not good—not good! That creates a disbalance in your energy and a disbalance in your physical body and creates disease.

I had described it: it's like taking something that's very neutral—a like or a dislike or—you know—I don't want to sh...okay that's fine—it takes that—which is just fine—that's literally in that stillness Kim—there's nothing—right? There's nothing attached to that; it's not good; it's not bad; you're not nothing; you're just saying: "I just don't want it." Okay! Moving on.

It takes that very neutral stance—when we add that judgment into it it's like rocket fuel for difficulty—for hardship—for self-harm in a way because you do it so much and like you said—it turns that energy—really—it almost turns the energy sick.

Yep. And I sat there and thought: how can people hear that little subtle voice in their head? How can they be more aware that it's actually occurring? Because like I said—I wasn't even tuning in—I was just going along the aisles looking all around and I didn't even hear that little voice until we were talking.

You didn't hear that voice until you and I started talking? Is that what you're saying? When we brought this topic up?

Yep! And that's when it literally came up to the forefront. And so as we're going along I'm thinking: how can people be more aware that their voice is saying this to themselves if they don't know? They don't realize that they're judging—they're like: "No I'm fine; I'm not judging" or they're annoyed with Jill and Kim for talking about judgment so often!

Yes! Like what? So—I had an idea for people to try today.

Perfect.

And I would like you to kind of set the intention of when you're inadvertently judging. So for one—you kind of have to know a little bit of a feeling: what does judgment feel to you? If somebody's judging you—don't pick on anybody particular—but if you think of somebody judging you—what does that kind of feel like? Where do you feel that in your body? And just recognize that maybe you do maybe just also get a sick stomach—a sick feeling in your stomach—maybe you scratch your head whatever it is—say okay—I recognize that.

Now I want you to amplify it a little bit more.

Yep—I’m asking to amplify a feeling—oh! But it's to help you recognize that you're judging a lot faster so then you can shift that so then you can be in that moment like: whoa! Oh—that just hit me! Oh man—I didn't realize you were starting to judge again! Okay now I can turn it down a notch; now I can say thank you for allowing me to see that—I didn't see that.

Okay so clarify for me—the feeling we're amplifying—we're amplifying our self-feeling of judgment?

So okay—you’re gonna sit or do—not just sit—but you're going to allow the feeling of judgment coming towards you. So I want you to think of somebody/something that represents judgment.

Yeah—and go in your body see where you feel it: do you also just feel drained? Do you get a yawn? Do you scratch your head? Do you get a weird pain in your knees? Like what actually physically happens?

Gotcha.

Do your shoulders go up? Do you feel a tenseness somewhere? Do you feel a gut ache? Like really go in and pay attention to the subtle side—but then see yourself turning it up a notch and saying: today I'm allowing myself to feel the judgment when it comes in.

Okay!

So then your body's gonna talk to you a little bit louder today—but then when it hits you then you could say: oh wow—I didn't know I was doing that judging right there! Oh thank you! So—you turn it more into a game and then you could say oh—I got it thank you—and turn down the notch a little bit.

I love it; I get it; and I love it—that’s really simple—and yet it's highly effective!

Yep—and at that moment when you're in that place of just being and in that stillness of judgment—you can make a different decision—a different choice—and say thank you for allowing me to recognize I was judging there—and then go in deeper if you have to—or just say thank you!

Yeah—it’s just time—I was even kind of like—a little exasperated by "here’s judgment again!" I was like don’t we have a different topic?! And then was like—you know what—we don’t—there’s a reason this is coming up—it’s...something about it has shifted—that we can...like we started this podcast/conversation by saying—you know how—you and I—we could actually hear our thoughts?

Yep!

And I think something has shifted where these thoughts used to be a lot quieter—and somehow your average everyday person—even not paying any attention to this stuff—is hearing those thoughts more—that’s a shift!

And it's because we just really need to turn—the way I look at it is—we need to turn the volume down on some of those mental activities we have going on—and one of those mental activities we need to turn the volume down on (which we will get there) is judgment.

But before turning the volume down on it—we are actually doing the opposite—we’re turning it up so we can become very aware of the experience and where we're feeling it in our body! So it's kind of counterintuitive right—to turn it up first—but that's what we're doing—as per Kim’s lovely advice!

Wonderful! Yep!

Okay—it’s gonna be—it’s actually a really good day—I hear—it’s not meant to be mean/malicious—it’s literally taking—we’re judging the judgment!

Yeah—and we are turning down the judgment towards judgment—that's what we're doing!

Yeah—turning down the judgment towards judgment—all right cool—I love it!

Yeah! Thank you everyone! Thank you Jill!

Ah yes thank YOU Kim! Thank YOU for listening—and until next time!