Judgment Just Got a Whole Lot Less Toxic
One Harmonic Whole Dailys & More Podcast
| Jill & Kim | Rating 0 (0) (0) |
| oneharmonicwhole.com | Launched: Sep 02, 2025 |
| Season: 2 Episode: 171 | |
Transforming judgment into compassion and calmness in everyday life.
Key Takeaways
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Weekend Reflections:
The hosts share experiences from a long holiday weekend, highlighting how different people navigate busyness or relaxation. -
Judgment’s New Role:
While judgment used to fuel anger and frustration ("gasoline on a fire"), both Jill and Kim notice a shift—judgment now acts as a helpful pointer along their personal growth path. -
Real-Life Example:
Kim describes catching herself about to judge someone for not meeting her expectations. Instead of spiraling into anger or sadness, she quickly shifted toward empathy and acceptance, honoring the other person’s current abilities. -
Contrast with the Past:
Both hosts reflect on how such moments previously led to “self-imposed shitstorms”—cycles of negative emotion that triggered fight-or-flight responses. Now, these reactions dissolve much faster thanks to greater awareness. -
The Grief Process Parallel:
They liken emotional shifts (from judgment/anger/sadness) to moving through stages of grief—honoring each feeling without getting stuck—and ultimately arriving at compassion and peace. -
Embracing Change & Magic Moments:
There’s an acknowledgment of vibrational shifts in themselves (and perhaps the world), making it easier than ever before to move from reactionary habits toward calm observation. It feels almost magical!
Actionable Insights
- Notice your initial judgments; pause before reacting.
- Honor every stage of your emotional response rather than suppressing or staying stuck.
- Be willing—just give yourself permission—to let old patterns fall away.
- Watch for moments when you can transform judgment into empathy or compassion—it often happens quicker than you expect!
Final Thoughts
Jill & Kim encourage listeners:
"If this shift hasn’t happened yet—be open! If it has…celebrate it whenever it comes again."
No more mental storms; just willingness, presence, and self-compassion. Life really is supposed to feel like this!
Connect with us next time for more real-life insights on living harmoniously!
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Transforming judgment into compassion and calmness in everyday life.
Key Takeaways
-
Weekend Reflections:
The hosts share experiences from a long holiday weekend, highlighting how different people navigate busyness or relaxation. -
Judgment’s New Role:
While judgment used to fuel anger and frustration ("gasoline on a fire"), both Jill and Kim notice a shift—judgment now acts as a helpful pointer along their personal growth path. -
Real-Life Example:
Kim describes catching herself about to judge someone for not meeting her expectations. Instead of spiraling into anger or sadness, she quickly shifted toward empathy and acceptance, honoring the other person’s current abilities. -
Contrast with the Past:
Both hosts reflect on how such moments previously led to “self-imposed shitstorms”—cycles of negative emotion that triggered fight-or-flight responses. Now, these reactions dissolve much faster thanks to greater awareness. -
The Grief Process Parallel:
They liken emotional shifts (from judgment/anger/sadness) to moving through stages of grief—honoring each feeling without getting stuck—and ultimately arriving at compassion and peace. -
Embracing Change & Magic Moments:
There’s an acknowledgment of vibrational shifts in themselves (and perhaps the world), making it easier than ever before to move from reactionary habits toward calm observation. It feels almost magical!
Actionable Insights
- Notice your initial judgments; pause before reacting.
- Honor every stage of your emotional response rather than suppressing or staying stuck.
- Be willing—just give yourself permission—to let old patterns fall away.
- Watch for moments when you can transform judgment into empathy or compassion—it often happens quicker than you expect!
Final Thoughts
Jill & Kim encourage listeners:
"If this shift hasn’t happened yet—be open! If it has…celebrate it whenever it comes again."
No more mental storms; just willingness, presence, and self-compassion. Life really is supposed to feel like this!
Connect with us next time for more real-life insights on living harmoniously!
Ready to break free from the cycle of judgment and mental “shitstorms”? Tune in for a transformative conversation!
In this episode, Jill and Kim explore how our relationship with judgment is shifting—from fueling anger and frustration to opening doors for compassion and acceptance. Through real-life stories, they reveal how quickly emotional storms can turn into moments of empathy when we choose to see things differently.
Key insights include:
- How personal awareness helps transform judgment into understanding
- The surprising speed at which old habits can shift toward calmness
- Why honoring each emotion leads to greater peace
If you’re ready for more magic—and less drama—in your life, don’t miss this uplifting discussion! Hit play now and join the journey towards a more harmonious mindset.
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Hello, lovely listeners, and good morning, Kim. Good morning, Jill. Good morning, everyone. It's Jill and Kim again here at One Harmonic Whole.
We just went through a very long weekend, and there's a lot of different experiences that happened over the weekend for a lot of different people. Some people were crazy busy, and other people were just taking the time just to actually be relaxed, not do a whole lot, not run from this place to this place. So it's a very interesting weekend, needless to say.
Yeah. Long holiday weekend. Yeah. Yeah.
But the message today does come back to the word judgment. We've talked a lot about the word judgment. A lot. A lot, A lot. But it's shifting. This is the cool part. I've noticed that it's shifting out of that, like, the anger judgment. And it's moving. Yeah, it's going in a really cool direction. It's like, it's becoming helpful. It's painting more of a pointer on the path rather than a gasoline on a fire.
Yes. I had a... I'm just going to mention this because it's popping up in my head. I had an experience this weekend where it was quick for me to want to go into the judgment, but it was also very quick to see a different perspective of it. I went from judgment, or it could have turned very quickly into anger, into, like, frustration. But I went in my head and like, wait a sec, I'm... That's what I would want for myself. That's not what this person is doing for them.
And it turned into compassion. It turned into, like, wow. Like, I need to honor where that person's at and the abilities that they have to do what they can at that moment. They weren't doing anything wrong. They just weren't working at the speed that I wanted them to work at. That's all it was.
But I turned into a compassion. But I wanted to go into a sad mode, too. Like, oh, they can't do what they used to be able to do. I kind of went sad, but I turned that sadness... It was very quick. This all happened, like, literally a split second. It was crazy.
And then I was able to go into... Out of that sadness, the frustration, the anger, the judgment—like all of that—and then into like a sad feeling of like: wow... Not to see them do some abilities—I know that they have the potential to do that—I thought: okay... Or that I've seen in the past; and all of a sudden went into compassion: like this is where they're at right now; it's totally okay.
The level of acceptance in there and the judgment of the past that we're saying is really shifted right now anyway—would have the past being like two days ago.
Yeah! Like seriously! It feels like it just changed yesterday.
But to contrast the experience you just shared Kim—the old style of contrast—could you share how it would have gone had you followed that?
Oh! We would have stayed in that feeling of: they didn't do this right or they aren't working fast enough for me and like: oh now I have to do that; now that's extra work on top of what I have to do because they're not doing... Would... Yeah you would have conjured up a mental shitstorm basically—like you have.
Exactly! Yep! And it would have been on me—like I created that storm myself.
And you would have gotten swept away into that—that mental pit storm in your head—everything else...
Both scenarios are identical except for your experience; nothing else was different but how Kim did the experience.
Yep! That's what happened to me yesterday! I had a similar thing and I had that experience in various forms over the years and it was always a shitstorm—self imposed!
Haha! Self imposed shitstorm!
And it was the image in my head in the past—and part of it Kim is—I think—the self imposed shitstorm—what we don't realize—what I didn't realize I was doing—what I hope people listening here can kind of go—hopefully have a big "aha" or "oha" from it—is it triggers our survival fight or flight within us.
So like—I conjured up a shit storm in my own head—a mental shit storm—it’s wild in there—and now I have this whole wild thing and I start looking at that other person blaming them as though they're the source for this shit storm that's in my head—and it keeps getting bigger and bigger—that it turns into like this such a big horrible thing—that I'm like holy shit—holy shit...
Yeah! Fight or flight! Am I going to fight with it? Am I going to run away from it? Like we're really literally—we were in the past very much conjuring these things up and then kind of screwing ourselves with it.
Because once you get into fight or flight—it is nearly impossible to do anything other than experience the fight or flight until all those chemicals in your body calm down—you've got to give it time to calm down—maybe I'm wrong on that one—but it's pretty tall order to get yourself into that space and then for someone to say hey calm down...
But where we are now—like you said—it was kind of crazy how fast it went yesterday for you—but you didn't need much—you just needed that glimpse into it—and when you had that glimpse...
Yeah! And even your experience—it shifted actually very quickly—and in the past—it was not.
So something in the world completely changed; there's a vibrational shift that changed—and we hope that you experienced it as you're hearing this—going "oh that's what that was," or keep an eye out for it because...
It is—for me personally Kim—like mine—some of it was personal work; certainly personal work definitely has its place—but then there's these just breakthroughs—these shifts—that happen—in like you said—the vibration of the Earth experience—and this one shifted...
And it's... I'm just going to be on the lookout for this because I'm telling you... It's almost magical—it IS magical actually! It's just that it's not magic; it's life; it's what life's supposed to be.
Life is supposed to be more of this—where these things happen—and we're in experience with them—we're not in a shitstorm with them—you can let your body process through—and if you can look up the stages of grief—it’s literally the same stages—the grieving process if you want to call it—that you go through—that you go through very quick...
There's a moment where we can get caught up in one little section of it—the judgment or anger—we can get caught up in that really easy—we can even get caught up in sadness—it’s literally the process—process of honoring every little section but not staying with it...
It's more like "oh—I recognize—I just got sad" ...like wow okay—which—that sadness then can turn into compassion—like "I can feel for another person" ...empathy—I could see where they're at—like there's a different perspective that just comes to your mind very quickly...
And then it's like—you can ...if there's acceptance ...there's peace—it can flow so much more faster now than what it has in the past...
It's... It's like a mental calmness; it's mental and emotional calmness—it doesn't—you know—we're still having the experience; it's just we're not biking—and those spikes—in the past—you know—we judge it and then it would spike and go so high—and literally—it would hurt...
Like—the judgment is like holy crap because it was a storm right? This storm coming back on us—and now it's just like there's just this beautiful opportunity—to engage calmness on it...
It's like—you don't even have to do anything but just see that glimpse of it: ooh this is different! That's what you did yesterday Kim; that's what I did—we just saw that it was different—and then we just watched that—and after seeing it—we didn't do anything but just—we just kept watching it: oh okay... Oh oh there's my old habit wanting to judge it... Oh there's my old habit wanting—to stir up a shit storm... Oh oh there's that old habit falling away...
Oh look at this—I feel a little sad; oh—I feel a lot sad; oh wow—that sadness—look at it; just be with it for awhile and all of a sudden—it’s just like your heart starts opening up—you feel (like you said) empathy and compassion—it’s kind of magical!
It is!
And it's not as difficult as we tell ourselves—the story "it is." It's not as hard—as "it's hard" ...to do that; it's really not hard; it's just being with it and honoring each stage you're in: okay yeah—I feel this; no one made you feel that—we talk about that—a lot—you recognize and you're honoring each one—you’re like wow okay—you’re taking deep breath and moving forward—it goes very quick when you just sit...
Like I said mine was split second—it was so fast—I was actually impressed with myself!
And same with you Jill!
Wow! It's magic—you said—it’s magic!
It really is! And so our hope and our wish for you is—that if this happened already—you’re like “wow cool!” If not yet—it happens soon—and happens again & again because…it changes…it changes life!
Yep!
Yeah! So willingness—I think—is big word: Just be willing! Be willing—to see THAT…give THAT moment…be willing—to allow judgment—to shift—from what used to be —that gasoline on fire…
No more…no more shitstorms…
No more shitstorms!
All right…continue…shit…I was gonna say maybe every once in day because they are fun on occasion…
Yep!
Yes!
Thank You Kim…thank You Jill…thank You everyone…
All right…until next time…
